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Depression It may not have been easy for you to become pregnant, you may have become pregnant by surprise or everything may have gone to plan but here you are with your baby. You may have had a difficult labour, your baby may have needed to go into intensive care or you may have needed to stay in hospital for a while. Does your baby seem to never sleep - and cry for most of the time? Do you seem to never sleep - and cry for most of the time? Does your husband not understand why the washing isn't done or why the dinner isn't on the table? Does it all seem too new and too much? Do you have self-doubt? Are you depressed? If the answer is, "Yes." and the reason seems obvious, have you asked yourself why not all mothers get postnatal depression? Why is it that some seem to cope better than others? A lot of people have asked those questions and a lot of people would like to know the answers. Anyone who touches a hot iron will burn themselves, anyone who slips with a sharp knife will cut themselves, anyone who stands in the road in front of a bus will get run over; yet not everybody who has a baby gets postnatal depression. Maybe the answer lies in what makes us all different; some people are affected by circumstances and some are not. This would suggest that the birth of your baby may not be the cause of your postnatal depression but may be a stimulus or a catalyst, if the situation is right; this is why postnatal depression is not universal. If we accept this, we have to ask why it is that different people are affected differently; we have to ask why some mothers are brought to postnatal depression and some are not. The reason people are different to each other is that their characters are different and this is because during their formative years, everybody had different experiences. The building blocks for their lives came in all shapes and sizes and it is from these building blocks that any person is made. No wonder we are all different, we can't possibly be the same. How does this help with postnatal depression? Well, some people will have had good times, during their childhood, when their characters were forming, some will have had bad and most will have had a varying mixture. During childhood, so much is new; some things can surprise us, some can shock us, some can embarrass us, leave us frightened or feeling guilty - especially the first time we have the experience. As a young, naive child, judging something we have never seen before, it is quite likely we will make a poor judgement now and again. Right or wrong, this doesn't matter, that building block is taken and used in the formation of our character and everything afterwards is built on this foundation. The structure of our character today is based on what we made of our experiences as children. Sometimes, in childhood, an experience will so shock the young mind that the subconscious will hide it or bottle it up - immediately, along with the emotion attached to that event. This emotion is also bottled up immediately and is, therefore, unexpressed. This is beginning to make such events sound like mini pressure-cookers and basically, that's what they are. The subconscious tries to keep them hidden, at the back somewhere. (For this effort, it will take a payment from the conscious part of the person; usually in the form of a phobia or piece of behaviour - but that is something else to be dealt with another time.) Your pregnancy was something which advanced, day by day, cell by cell, over nine months and then finished (relative to the nine months) all at once. During each hour of ever day, the emotion attached to your pregnancy grew and strengthened and then surpassed most emotions you have felt at any other time in your life. As it grew, this emotion sent its roots into your memory, intertwining with all others, where it sat, very deeply bedded in. Then, suddenly, you were no longer pregnant; you had a baby, instead. That emotion was put into reverse, fired into the light of the present day and redirected at your baby. Given the speed at which this all happened, it is no wonder that some of the other emotions in your memory were also dragged into the here and now. Some of these will have been little pressure-cookers. Now, bobbing around on the surface, are unexpressed emotions, still hidden but near enough to touch. Near enough to touch and near enough to touch you. As they do, you will still be unaware of what they are; you will be in turmoil but not even know what is causing it. You can see, now, that what we must do is let those emotions out, have that scream, release that pressure. One way to do this is with the help of hypnosis. Forget Paul McKenna, what happens here is just a state of deep relaxation; a relaxation so deep that the barriers that keep those emotions hidden are also relaxed. These emotions will be there waiting, you will be able to see them, let them out and be free of the pressure they are causing. This will be a moment of liberating enlightenment and you will understand so much about yourself; you will have just seen a lot of yourself that has been hidden for most of your life. Analytical therapy is usually eight one-hour sessions over consecutive weeks. Things only go for the better and without these hidden pressures, you no longer will react to them. Life will seem much easier, much simpler and much more fun. More about Analytical Therapy : More about Hypnosis |